.... boredom is NOT as frivolous and harmless as people might think. Some people might scoff at a woman with a source of income and some privilege complaining about being “bored.” But if that boredom leads her to have affairs? Overspend? Develop a drug problem?
Not so funny, now. This is why I think people need to learn at an early age that life will not be fun or interesting all the time - and that that is NOT a problem that needs to be solved. People need to learn better how to cope with the parts of life that are just quiet.
I think I’m going to re-post part of this to the Boredom section - I’m not just talking about COVID boredom. Boredom pre-COVID got me into a LOT of trouble, because I never learned to sit with it and just let it be.
I think part of my problem as a child was that I had an active imagination to begin with, and I watched a lot of TV and was exposed to a lot of fairy tales and fiction of the “happily-ever-after” variety. I thought life was supposed to play out like a cute boy-meets-girl story.
What if I had seen more TV and more stories about people (especially women) doing the non-romantic/sexual part of their lives? Or more fiction about ordinary, everyday life - presenting “ordinary” as a good thing?
Last Edit: Aug 19, 2020 11:41:03 GMT -8 by Susan P.
Rose makes a very important point. In the beginning of recovery, what we call withdrawal, one must keep busy doing something positive.
Since getting sober in 1982, I have kept busy with the following.
1. I joined a service organization within AA that allowed me to go into the prions with the message of recovery. It was very exciting and I met a lot of sober alcoholics doing their time with the help of God.
2. I started looking forward to life without a man. I decided I wanted to be a writer. So I spend hours writing in my journal.
3. I started a meeting for Women Who Love Too Much and facilitated it for 12 years. I wrote all the literature and then created a class which I taught for 15 years.
4. Then I started counseling I went to classes at the adult school to learn about psychology.
5. I started writing my book. This kept me busy.
6. To promote my work I taught myself to create websites. I kept so busy I was able to lost a hundred pounds.
7. I went to a 12-Step meeting every day for 25 years. For the last 13 years I have spend my time on this board helping others.
8. I co-founded LAA with the help of Howard Gold, and wrote the literature.
You can do anything you want to keep busy, but it must not become another addiction.