She is too young for me I can't live up to her expectations. Financially, in bed, and in hopes of having children, I can't. I just tried to do it. However, the result was that I was getting tired. She should find a younger man with a future.
I’m like a rolling stone. I can’t stay with one woman. No long relationship. No satisfying relationship. My girlfriend found out twice I was texting to another woman. She sometimes watches my cellphone. She gets mad each time. I explained why I texted them and that I didn’t do anything wrong.
Am I crazy? She is too jealous?
It’s my privacy and I never try to watch her cellphone. Someone’s messages appear on her cellphone but I don’t want to see it. She has lots of male friends on Facebook. She talked about her ex boyfriends. I don’t want to hear about it but I think it’s her privacy.
I try not to talk about my wife or my ex girlfriend because I don’t want her to feel bad with it. In a meaning, she is honest but I don’t need any information of her past relationships.
I am tired. My job, my mom, my girlfriend. I have lots to do for them but no time for myself.
Last Edit: Aug 3, 2020 12:51:48 GMT -8 by Susannah
I’m like a rolling stone. I can’t stay with one woman.
Koji, you have been on this board a long time. You should not still be a practicing Romance Addict. It is time to take action. Make a decision to pick one woman who you get along with and remain monogamous. While you are with this woman you will go through withdrawal by getting the urge to get on the internet and look for someone new. That is your addiction talking. You must ignore this and stay off chat rooms, except for this one. You can do this. It is time . . . we are here to help you, but you have to make the changes yourself. As my therapist said, "We hold the flash light; you chop the wood."
Last Edit: Aug 3, 2020 12:52:22 GMT -8 by Susannah
Change is to human life what the metamorphosis is to the caterpillar; it is the inevitable cycle of life. If there is no change, there is no life. The Art of Changing by Susan Peabody.
My girlfriend wants a baby. We’ve tried to have for many months already. We have seen an expert doctor every month after she had period. This time, she has period again. She is hopeless now. I am also hopeless. I think that there are still “scientific” approach to have a baby. However, I am really really tired. I need a woman but I can’t give her what she wants. I am never happy to have relationship with her while I can’t satisfy her conditions for her to be happy. She wants a baby. She wants a dog. She wants a house in her country too. She wants me to meet her needs. I am not the one she wants. So I better say goodbye to her and suggest that she finds a younger man who has more future than me and is rich enough to make her happy. I think thar it’s time for her to know the reality and real me. We have been in a relationship for 3 years. I have tried my best to make her happy but that’s not enough. Time to give up. Better stay alone than stay in a relationship that can’t see the future.
I want more time to think of myself. I want freedom. At first, I wanted someone to sleep with. Sleeping alone was terrible. I wanted someone to hug. I wanted someone to enjoy sex together. Now, I need her permission to do something for myself. I need to please her in bed when I have sex. If I want to read something, I need to go out and find a cafe. I need to go on diet. So I am prohibited to eat what I wanted to eat. My health is supposed to lead to her pregnancy. It’s not easy for me to go to therapy while I live with her. Actually, “what do I want” is a difficult question to answer. My doctor says I am “vacant.” It means I don’t know what I want. That’s why I try to depend on someone to fill the vacancy. That’s is the original reason of my addiction symptom.