When attachment ceases, emotional freedom arises Mar 29, 2018 3:05:12 GMT -8
Post by Elisabetta Vatielli on Mar 29, 2018 3:05:12 GMT -8
Today I leave you free. Today I forget my fears. Today I begin to appreciate myself. Today I go forward. Today I stop waiting for you.
Usually, we become aware of the emotional bondage to which we are subdued when our heart breaks. This happens when a relationship makes us sick, because it suffocates us or because something has broken inside us when we say goodbye.
Just before this happens, we feel that the whole world is extinguished and that an immense wave of pain envelops us, preventing us from breathing. This is emotional suffocation and its main ingredient is emotional dependence.
It happens that we have to let go of what we held close to us and start a new life, because emotional slavery suffocates. This is the moment when we do not see ourselves able to do anything unless we are accompanied by someone to guide us.
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Enjoying your own solitude to have happy relationships
"Throughout my life I thought of love as a kind of accepted slavery. In reality it is not so: freedom exists only if love exists. The one who lets himself go and feels free loves to the maximum.
And he who loves at most feels free. But in love, each of us is responsible for what he feels and can not be blamed for someone else.
Nobody loses anyone, because nobody has anyone.
And this is the true experience of freedom: having the most important thing in the world without possessing it "
Eleven Minutes - Paulo Coelho
The best way to be happy with someone is to learn to be happy with themselves, because only then will the company be a choice and not a necessity.
Love is often misunderstood: the representative phrase should not be "I need your presence in my life", but "I choose your presence in my life". Avoiding the feelings of need and possession will help us to live in peace and freedom with ourselves.
Stop waiting: emotional release
"I'm sick and probably will be worse, but I'm learning to be alone and this is a great advantage and a little triumph".
Your true freedom begins when you begin to understand who you are and what you are capable of. When you start untying and getting rid of your chains, you get the sweaty trophy: independence, the one that will keep you going without having to hold someone's hand.
The best experience of freedom is to own no one and not to be owned by anyone. Because feeling to possess someone, basically, means living with slavery.
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Our dependence makes us slaves, especially if it is our self-esteem to depend on someone or something. Needing compliments, affection or attentions takes away our ability to decide our destiny.
It is not the others who harm you, you are wrong when you give too much importance to their opinions and actions. No one can hurt you without having permission from your inner "Me", that is, the basis of your "emotional scaffolding".
Taking care of your self-esteem is the best way to say goodbye to harmful and futile attachments, which affect your vitality and your desire for fulfillment.
You have to be the first to make you respect and forget the concepts that you can only be loved if someone owns you and, in return, you yearn for your partner.