This is a movie about male codependency. At first he wants to save her and then he realizes that to really help her he has to let go. It ends with the relationship up in the air because addicts often relapse after these inspiring movies are made. I love the fact that he decides to protect his daughter instead of giving into his codependency. If only I had seen this movie when my children were you. 1982 was the year I got sober and the issue of codependency was brand new. I got sober just in time to find out that alcoholism was nothing compared to my codependency.
Review of the Movie
I just read a review where someone stated that they couldn't see how a mom could go from being good to bad so fast well let me tell you by experience this movie got it right. Drugs can take an upper middle class very well educated loving devoted mother and wife and turn her into a monster over night. I love the fact that this movie shows how addiction affects family and the fact that it was the mom and not the dad who was an addict. In reality a larger number of addict are upper middle class women not men. A must see movie especially for those whom have no idea how addiction changes the user in an instant nor the effects it has on their family and friends. Well done Hill Harper and thank you for this heart achingly wonderful movie... From a 6yr recovering addict.
Last Edit: Jan 18, 2018 21:28:37 GMT -8 by Susannah
This is why I have been focusing on men on this board, but we need them to come out of the shadows and post. Everyday we get a new guy. So thank you for posting. I will never forget when I saw the movie, "Men Don't Tell." It was about men who were physically abused by their partner. The guy in the movie was standing in the phone booth trying to get into a shelter and get out. The woman at the battered women's shelter just hung up on him. It made me cry.
When I started my work in this field I was teaching, "Women Who Love Too Much." I put up flyers and a man wrote on one saying, "Where do the men go." At the time I had a friend in AA who was beaten in the parking lot by his PoA. He lost his sobriety, his apartment, his car and was living on the streets. All he talked about was how much he loved her. This is not love I told him. Later he called and said he wanted to kill himself. I talked him out of it and took him under my wing. Today he is happily married. After this I started calling this love addiction to include men. Come out guys wherever you are . . .