What is the best way to distract or refocus our minds when we are fantasizing or obsessing about a POA or stranger?
I used to obsessively play video games. I stopped doing that and went back to school. Then I was obsessive about my schooling. I feel that, whatever you do to redirect the energy, it could be applied to personal development or to help others to develop themselves.
When you can use the energy to do something that increases your self-esteem and sense of personal mastery, you have tapped into a powerful agent for change in your life.
In the movie Tron (1982), The character Flynn is trying to move a ship that sails on a beam of energy to another beam without a junction of any kind. He dives into the beam without care to himself and diverts the energy with his body.
His redirection of power to create a link between two Solar Sailer beams, another feat impossible for a normal program, left him exhausted, though he brushed off questions of how he had known it would work by saying, "A beam of energy can always be diverted."
I would suggest to you that "A beam of energy can always be diverted". It may exhaust you and you have to be certain of the direction you divert to, but it can be done!
I have a brother with disabilities. I am taking him to lunch today at a church craft sale -- supporting my local church and giving my brother a much-appreciated outing. I have an elderly father, and we meet every Wednesday for dinner. I have a lovely friend who is going through a tough time in her life, and we meet for coffee and support. I have attended spiritual retreats. I have volunteered at my local church.
In other words -- there ARE activities out there that are edifying to mind, body and soul.
What I used to do -- act out every single Saturday with PoA. To do that, I had to lie, deceive, and live in the shadows of dark, addictive behaviors. Seeing him was like going to an opium den. Nothing good came of it. Nothing. I dismissed and ignored family, friends, healthy activities. All to be with a fellow addict and it almost did me in, spiritually, morally, physically.
With God's grace and guidance -- never again.
Last Edit: Nov 18, 2017 8:18:57 GMT -8 by havefaith