There I created a list off my values : 1. Rude people , avoid and don't worry about staying out off any relationships with rude people; 2. People who think knows me well advising, I can listen to them but don't buy their opinion rather, think and make decision based on my values ; 3. Don't stay in relationship with ppl who embarrass me in public , talk instead off me. 4. People who criticise me ( avoid); 5. People who share my problems with others ( clearly business conversations ); 6. Do not accept relationship from someone who : a) smokes b) heavily drinks c) put his friends first d) swear e) lie f) cheat g) don't look after himself h ) lazy I) don't respect me and treat my kids bad j)person who abuses me mentally , physically and same to kids k) person who don't want commitment , avoidance l) person who is to jealous and won't give me space m) person who don't like physical affection @ sex n) gambler o ) person who had any criminal activity that's loads I don't think such person exists ?